BOOK RESOURCES
Something for your reading pleasure
RESOURCES FOR YOU
I often get asked about book resources, so this page contains my favorite books, split into 8 categories.
Intimacy & Relating
Neuroscience
Personal Development
Sexuality
Gender & Queer Sexuality
Women’s Sexuality
Social Justice
Trauma & Healing
I encourage you to purchase these books from your local bookstore. If you’re not able to do that, you can purchase from Amazon by clicking on the book title, and I will receive a small referral fee.
Intimacy & Relating
A General Theory of Love
by Thomas Lewis, Fari Amini, and Richard Lannon
Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free by Terri Cole
Codependency No More: How to Cure Codependency, Start to Love Yourself and Fight for No More Codependent Relationship Ever by Elisabeth Cloud
Embracing Our Selves: Voice Dialogue Manual
by Hal Stone and Sidra L. Stone
Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic
by Esther Perel
Partnering: A New Kind of Relationship
by Hal Stone and Sidra L. Stone
The Art of Receiving and Giving:
The Wheel of Consent
by Betty Martin D.C., with Robyn Dalzen
Undefended Love
by Jett Psaris and Marlena S. Lyons
Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change by Robin Norwood
Neuroscience
Accessing the Healing Power of the Vagus Nerve: Self-Help Exercises for Anxiety, Depression, Trauma, and Autism by Stanley Rosenberg
Heal Your Vagus Nerve, Heal Yourself: A Guide to Enhancing Vagus Nerve Function by Hoyd Lucy
How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain
by Lisa Feldman Barrett
Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection
by Deb Dana
The Body Has a Mind of it's Own: How Body Maps in Your Brain Help You Do (Almost) Everything Better by Sandra Blakeslee and Matthew Blakeslee
The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe by Stephen W. Porges
The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation by Stephen W. Porges
Whole Brain Living: The Anatomy of Choice and the Four Characters That Drive Our Life by Jill Bolte Taylor
Personal Development
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle
by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
Coming Apart: Why Relationships End and How to Live Through the Ending of Yours by Daphne Rose Kingma
Directing the Power of Conscious Feelings: Living Your Own Truth
by Clinton Callahan
Emotion Code: How to Release Your Trapped Emotions for Abundant Health, Love and Happiness by Bradley Nelson
No More Mr. Nice Guy
by Robert A. Glover
Radical Honesty : How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth
by Brad Blanton
The Courage to be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change your Life and Achieve Real Happiness by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga
The Culture Map: Decoding How People Think, Lead, and Get Things Done Across Cultures by Erin Meyer
The Power of Focusing: A Practical Guide to Emotional Self-Healing
by Ann Weiser Cornell
We're all doing time: A Guide for Getting Free
by Bo Lozoff
When Things Fall Apart:
Heart Advice for Difficult Times
by Pema Chödrön
Sexuality
Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
Coming Together: Embracing your Core Desires for Sexual Fulfillment and Long-Term by Danielle Harel PhD and Celeste Hirschman MA
Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power
by Carolyn Elliott
The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment by Jack Morin
The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities
by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt
Gender & Queer Sexuality
How to Understand Your Gender: A Practical Guide for Exploring Who You Are by Alex Iantaffi and Meg-John Barker
Trans Sex: Clinical Approaches to Trans Sexualities and Erotic Embodiments by Lucie Fielding
Women’s Sexuality
Pussy: A Reclamation
by Regena Thomashauer
Seductress: Women Who Ravished the World and Their Lost Art of Love by Elizabeth Prioleau
Woman: An Intimate Geography
by Natalie Angier
Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps To Buried Pleasure by Sheri Winston
Vagina: A New Biography
by Naomi Wolf
Social Justice
Fearing the Black Body: The Racial Origins of Fat Phobia
by Sabrina Strings
How to Be an Anti-racist
by Ibram X. Kendi
Me and White Supremacy: Combat Racism, Change the World, and Become a Good Ancestor by Layla F. Saad
My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Mending of Our Bodies and Hearts by Resmaa Menakem
Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good
by adrienne maree brown
The Body is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor
The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness
by Michelle Alexander
What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat
by Aubrey Gordon
White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism
by Robin DiAngelo
Trauma & Healing
Body Sense: The Science and Practice of Embodied Self-Awareness by Alan Fogel
Call of the Wild: How We Heal Trauma, Awaken Our Own Power, and Use It For Good by Kimberly Ann Johnson
Emotional Anatomy
by Stanley Keleman
Healing Developmental Trauma: How Early Trauma Affects Self-Regulation, Self-Image, and the Capacity for Relationship
by Laurence Heller and Aline LaPierre
It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk
The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships by Bonnie Badenoch
Transforming Trauma: The Path to Hope and Healing
by James Samuel Gordon
What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey
When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress
by Gabor Maté
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